I wanted to talk about something I have been noticing the past few months....how simplifying your surroundings can make you happier! One of my new favorite books (well it's been my favorite for a while) is Simplicity Parenting written by Kim John Payne has really influenced me in how I live and how the enviroment I create for my children(and preschoolers) makes a difference.
Let me now take you back about 9 years ago....I was a young, spontaneous, independent, happy to be out of the house, just graduated high schooler. Toward the end of that first year I remember that my room was sooo messy I was sleeping on the couch in the front room. I would clean up my mess every where else in the apartment except for my room.
Looking back on this experience let me tell you what I learned:
*I didn't want to deal with the consequences I was making in my life. (Not ready to clean up.)
*I respected others (by cleaning up my mess in other places) but not myself.
*I began to see that I develop ADD when there is a mess. Instead of hitting the problem straight on, I run around cleaning everything else up except for the major part.
Ok, now fast forward to the present. As I have become a Mom cleaning up after your child is part of your everyday, this-is-what-I-do routine. In addition to cleaning up after 2 children there are the household chores of cleaning. Just recently (like the last 2 months) I have began to see how important it is for children and for myself to organize, reduce, and keep your area tidy.
In the book Simplicity Parenting, pg. 67, he says, "If you give a child less and less complexity, they become more interested, and this cultivates true powers of attention." Not only does this simple statement apply to children but also adults!
Let my tell you what I have learned about the environment we live in and play in:
*When the house is clean and in order my son is WILLING to put his things away when he gets them out. If we already have a big mess out and there is too much stuff everywhere he won't do it.
*When the house is clean I am sane! I can focus and therefore be productive, which means I feel better about myself.
The whole point of me writing about this that I used to be really bad at having a house that was in order and subsequently my ADD would be sky high. I would feel so overwhelmed I wouldn't know where to start. After reading Simplicity Parenting, I have realized that MORE=MESS, we do not need more to be happy, and stuff is still stuff. The less stuff we have around the easier it is to organize. When my surroundings are in order my mind/emotions are more in order which makes me a happier me!